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2:34pm July 29, 2014

 Sexist Response to ‘Supernatural’ Nerd HQ question on Female Guest Stars Sums up Show’s Problems

iwriteaboutfeminism:

iwriteaboutfeminism:

During Sunday’s Nerd HQ panel at Comic-Con with the cast of ‘Supernatural,’ an audience member asked if the dynamic on set changed for the male dominated cast on episodes with a female guest star. The responses she got from star Jared Padalecki and panel moderator Aisha Tyler perfectly, and problematically, demonstrated why the show continues to be criticized by fans for its treatment of female and queer characters. 

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Before she could even finish her question, Jared joked about two of his co-stars not really counting as men- “We also have Mark Sheppard and Misha [Collins],” to which Alicia added something to the effect of “things we don’t know about Misha.”  It was a little hard to hear. Jared has purposely misgendered people before to make a “joke” or be demeaning, (one example being a tweet about Justin Bieber). Statements like these are sexist and transphobic and represent the idea of masculinity which ‘Supernatural’ seems to buy into- that only masculine men are real men and that masculinity is defined by what you can’t be (i.e. feminine) rather than what you are.

The questioner rolled her eyes, clearly not amused.

Jared then mentioned his wife, Genevieve Cortese, whom he met during the show’s fourth season when she played the demon Ruby. “Well, we all know what happened to me; I ended up marrying her. So I can’t do that again.”

Obviously not. The rest of his answer is where we start heading off the cliff.

“I don’t think it makes it too different. I think it’s easy in a male-dominated cast to not have to…there are so many shows that deal with romance that there needs to be a show that doesn’t deal with romance. That’s why we have ‘Supernatural,’ to deal with all the other parts of…to deal with the many other facets of human nature and existence, even in a bizarre way. But we don’t have to worry about, ‘Oh, there’s a scene where this-;’ We just kinda make a show about something else.”

So…women on your show could only ever be romantic interests? You don’t mind having zero lead female characters because then you don’t have to worry about getting bogged down by girly romance? Does romance not exist for men in the absence of women? It’s such a strange and dismissive answer.

Over the past nine seasons, there have been several reoccurring female characters whose stories were not about romance, including Abbadon, Ellen, Meg, Pamela, Bella, Charlie, Jody, and Naomi. (Note: Only Jody and Charlie are still alive, and Charlie- our only canonically queer character- is currently in another dimension.)

Speaking of female characters who have been primarily romantic interests, we mainly have Lisa and Amelia, both of whom were ditched by the brothers in order to focus on the family business. So yes, the Winchesters have each yet to have a lasting relationship and the nature of their work is clearly what has gotten in the way.  It seems impossible for either of them to have a relationship at this point that is separate from hunting.

BUT, luckily, men do not need women in order to experience romance! For a long time now, the show’s most significant and popular romantic narrative has been male/male- the relationship between Dean Winchester and the angel Castiel. As a supernatural being, Castiel has been intertwined with the brothers’ work from the moment we met him and he has stuck around, on and off, for six season. The major barrier between Dean and romantic relationships therefore doesn’t apply to Cas.  It is homophobic and biphobic to assume that romance isn’t possible among men, and considering the popularity of the Destiel relationship, it was offensive of Jared to ignore that possibility.

And then Aisha Tyler jumped in and everything went from bad to worse.

“The thing that I feel is so great about ‘Supernatural’ despite the monsters and everything is that it’s a show about the interior relationships of men, the interior lives of men, and it’s very rare that the relationships are emotional, they’re complex, they’re dynamic. And when you’re looking at a show where it’s all about male/female relationships, that’s the focus, but to see these guys that are struggling with their filial relationships and their intermasculine relationships is really unusual on TV and I think the show does that very, very well. And if you like guys, you’re curious about men, or you have a guy in your life, it’s a great show to watch to understand not all men, but these men. These characters I think are really well-written guys.”

Where to begin?

1) Ah yes, the precious, white, cisgender menz, they are so rare on television and often so  two-dimensional.

2) Who needs ladies when you’ve got men with a co-dependent sibling relationship?

3) Are you a lady who likes men? Are you curious about men? Got a man in your life? To understand these delicate creatures, watch this show about men who use misogynistic language!

Are you fucking kidding me?!

If there’s one thing you need to know about ‘Supernatural’ and its fandom, it’s in this quote from a recent article on The Daily Dot. “Most of the constant refrain of criticism stemmed from [Supernatural’s] status as the whitest, manliest, straightest show ever to have inexplicably cultivated a fandom that is its demographic polar opposite.”

News flash: No one watches ‘Supernatural’ to learn about men. The fandom hasn’t carried the show to its 10th season because of its masculinity. Sam and Dean being “manly” is so far down the list of why people watch the show and why so many identify with it in such strong ways that it’s almost laughable.

Most of the frustration fans feel comes from the fact that the people who work on ‘Supernatural’ still don’t seem to understand why the show has the particular audience it does and what that audience actually likes about the show. Without that understanding, they keep making decisions about the characters that keep earning them criticism. ‘Supernatural’ sees itself as an essentially masculine show, and one that feels the need to constantly prove that point. But their focus on masculinity is seriously limiting their possibilities for character development, something essential for a long-running series.  

Fans want to see these characters grow, but when you limit the type of people they interact with so they only see versions of themselves, and when you put restrictions on who is available for romantic storylines and who is not, you run seriously low on options to expand these characters’ world, and therefore their storylines.

12:12pm July 22, 2014
depraved-o:

I made this because this made people sad, I maybe colour it later…

depraved-o:

I made this because this made people sad, I maybe colour it later…

12:12pm July 22, 2014
linneart:

every fanart I see with Cas with a Dean doll just makes me CRY SO MUCH

linneart:

every fanart I see with Cas with a Dean doll just makes me CRY SO MUCH

12:11pm July 22, 2014

gifbattlegadree vs. twinkjared
 round 4: favorite character + favorite outfit

12:10am July 22, 2014

sogaysoalive:

I can never stop laughing at this

12:08am July 22, 2014

huffingtonpost:

Studies show that women apologize more than men, often for perfectly reasonable acts like, you know, taking up space. 

So watch this Pantene commercial here to inspire you to stop saying sorry for no reason. 

12:07am July 22, 2014

rnicrophone:

bombing:

cop: who the hell ordered all these pizzas

me: you said i got one phone call

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12:04am July 22, 2014
perspicious:


WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:    Stay with us and keep calm.The last thing we need when we’re panicking, is to have someone else panicking with us.
Offer medicine if we usually take it during an attack.You might have to ask whether or not we take medicine- heck, some might not; but please, ask. It really helps.
Move us to a quiet place.We need time to think, to breathe. Being surrounded by people isn’t going to help.
Don’t make assumptions about what we need. Ask.We’ll tell you what we need. Sometimes; you may have to ask- but never assume.
Speak to us in short, simple sentences.
Be predictable. Avoid surprises.
Help slow our breathing by breathing us or by counting slowly to 10.As odd as it sounds, it works.


                                                                             


WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO:1. Say, “You have nothing to be panicked about.”We know. We know. We know. And because we know we have nothing to be panicked about, we panic even more. When I realize that my anxiety is unfounded, I panic even more because then I feel like I’m not in touch with reality. It’s unsettling. Scary.Most of the time, a panic attack is irrational. Sometimes they stem from circumstances — a certain couch triggers a bad memory or being on an airplane makes you claustrophobic or a break up causes you to flip your lid — but mostly, the reasons I’m panicking are complex, hard to articulate or simply, unknown. I could tell myself all day that I have no reason to be having a panic attack and I would still be panicking. Sometimes, because I’m a perfectionist, I become even more overwhelmed when I think my behaviour is “unacceptable” (as I often believe it is when I’m panicking). I know it’s all in my mind, but my mind can be a pretty dark and scary place when it gets going.Alternate suggestion: Say, “I understand you’re upset. It is okay. You have a right to be upset and I am here to help.”2. Say, “Calm down.”This reminds me of a MadTV sketch where Bob Newhart plays a therapist who tells his patients to simply “Stop it!” whenever they express anxiety or fear. As a sketch, it’s funny. In real life, it’s one of the worst things you can do to someone having a panic attack. When someone tells me to “stop panicking” or to “calm down,” I just think, “Oh, okay. I haven’t tried that one. Hold on, let me get out a pen and paper and jot that down, you jerk.”Instead of taking action so that they do relax, simply telling a panicking person to “calm down” or “stop it” does nothing. No-thing.Alternate suggestion: The best thing to do is to listen and support. In order to calm them down without the generalities, counting helps.3. Say, “I’m just going to leave you alone for a minute.”Being left alone while panicking makes my heart race even harder. The last thing I want is to be left by myself with my troubled brain. Many of my panic attacks spark from over-thinking and it’s helpful to have another person with me, not only for medical reasons (in case I pass out or need water) but also it’s helpful to have another person around to force me to think about something other than the noise in my head.Alternate suggestion: It sometimes helps me if the person I’m with distracts me by telling me a story or sings to me. I need to get out of my own head and think about something other than my own panic.4. Say, “You’re overreacting.”Here’s the thing: I’m not. Panic attacks might be in my head, but I’m in actual physical pain. If you’d cut open your leg, no one would be telling you you’re overreacting. It’s a common trope in mental health to diminish the feelings or experience of someone suffering from anxiety or panic because there’s no visible physical ailment and because there’s no discernible reason for the person to be having such a strong fear reaction.The worst thing you can tell someone who is panicking is that they are overreacting.Alternate suggestion: Treat a panic attack like any other medical emergency. Listen to what the person is telling you. Get them water if they need it. It helps me if someone rubs my back a little. If you’re in over your head, don’t hesitate to call 911 (or whatever the emergency services number is where you are). But please, take the person seriously. Mental health deserves the same respect as physical health.


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perspicious:

WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:
    
  1. Stay with us and keep calm.
    The last thing we need when we’re panicking, is to have someone else panicking with us.

  2. Offer medicine if we usually take it during an attack.
    You might have to ask whether or not we take medicine- heck, some might not; but please, ask. It really helps.

  3. Move us to a quiet place.
    We need time to think, to breathe. Being surrounded by people isn’t going to help.

  4. Don’t make assumptions about what we need. Ask.
    We’ll tell you what we need. Sometimes; you may have to ask- but never assume.

  5. Speak to us in short, simple sentences.

  6. Be predictable. Avoid surprises.

  7. Help slow our breathing by breathing us or by counting slowly to 10.
    As odd as it sounds, it works.
                                                                             
WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO:

1. Say, “You have nothing to be panicked about.”
We know. We know. We know. And because we know we have nothing to be panicked about, we panic even more. When I realize that my anxiety is unfounded, I panic even more because then I feel like I’m not in touch with reality. It’s unsettling. Scary.

Most of the time, a panic attack is irrational. Sometimes they stem from circumstances — a certain couch triggers a bad memory or being on an airplane makes you claustrophobic or a break up causes you to flip your lid — but mostly, the reasons I’m panicking are complex, hard to articulate or simply, unknown. I could tell myself all day that I have no reason to be having a panic attack and I would still be panicking. Sometimes, because I’m a perfectionist, I become even more overwhelmed when I think my behaviour is “unacceptable” (as I often believe it is when I’m panicking). I know it’s all in my mind, but my mind can be a pretty dark and scary place when it gets going.

Alternate suggestion: Say, “I understand you’re upset. It is okay. You have a right to be upset and I am here to help.”


2. Say, “Calm down.”
This reminds me of a MadTV sketch where Bob Newhart plays a therapist who tells his patients to simply “Stop it!” whenever they express anxiety or fear. As a sketch, it’s funny. In real life, it’s one of the worst things you can do to someone having a panic attack. When someone tells me to “stop panicking” or to “calm down,” I just think, “Oh, okay. I haven’t tried that one. Hold on, let me get out a pen and paper and jot that down, you jerk.

Instead of taking action so that they do relax, simply telling a panicking person to “calm down” or “stop it” does nothing. No-thing.

Alternate suggestion: The best thing to do is to listen and support. In order to calm them down without the generalities, counting helps.


3. Say, “I’m just going to leave you alone for a minute.”
Being left alone while panicking makes my heart race even harder. The last thing I want is to be left by myself with my troubled brain. Many of my panic attacks spark from over-thinking and it’s helpful to have another person with me, not only for medical reasons (in case I pass out or need water) but also it’s helpful to have another person around to force me to think about something other than the noise in my head.

Alternate suggestion: It sometimes helps me if the person I’m with distracts me by telling me a story or sings to me. I need to get out of my own head and think about something other than my own panic.


4. Say, “You’re overreacting.”
Here’s the thing: I’m not. Panic attacks might be in my head, but I’m in actual physical pain. If you’d cut open your leg, no one would be telling you you’re overreacting. It’s a common trope in mental health to diminish the feelings or experience of someone suffering from anxiety or panic because there’s no visible physical ailment and because there’s no discernible reason for the person to be having such a strong fear reaction.

The worst thing you can tell someone who is panicking is that they are overreacting.

Alternate suggestion: Treat a panic attack like any other medical emergency. Listen to what the person is telling you. Get them water if they need it. It helps me if someone rubs my back a little. If you’re in over your head, don’t hesitate to call 911 (or whatever the emergency services number is where you are). But please, take the person seriously. Mental health deserves the same respect as physical health.

CREDIT [X]  [X]

12:01am July 22, 2014

shes-justlikethe-weather:

My respect level for T-Pain is out the roof right now.

3:05pm July 21, 2014
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Unlimited voting. Please signal boost to spread the word.

2:59pm July 21, 2014
casteole:

gross wtf get out of here

casteole:

gross wtf get out of here

2:58pm July 21, 2014
jensenjackles:


"Dean and I do share a more profound bond."

im giggling because the text on the bottom left says the only reason sam’s not there is because i cant draw him and im guessing something in the universe like dean and cas’ “more profound bond” didnt want him there..

jensenjackles:

"Dean and I do share a more profound bond."

im giggling because the text on the bottom left says the only reason sam’s not there is because i cant draw him and im guessing something in the universe like dean and cas’ “more profound bond” didnt want him there..

2:57pm July 21, 2014

ask-tinycas:

It’s my face.

He claims he knows how to “cheer” me up.

2:56pm July 21, 2014
2:55pm July 21, 2014
nephilimgirlbooks:

Just minding my own business, touring some colleges, when this happened.

nephilimgirlbooks:

Just minding my own business, touring some colleges, when this happened.